01 September 2013

Mamsi, Mama, Mommy, Nanay, Ina, Ma, Mutter, Maji, Mater, Mami, Madre, Mère

There is no special occasion today.  It’s not my mother’s birthday nor is it a Mother’s Day.  Recently, I had a quick conversation with a colleague who is a first time mommy and that inspired me to write something for all the best mothers out there.  You may read a lot of things about my mother in this post.  I am just a proud daughter that will boast and shout out to the world that  my mom is a classic example of a loving mother and a supported wife.

We are four siblings in the family: 2 boys and 2 girls.  I am a middle child who has two older brothers and a younger sister.  When we were still babies, I can’t imagine how my parents managed to take care of us.  They said we had two housemaids before but I could only remember having one, maybe because I was very young then.  In our growing years, the housemaids left us eventually.  It now became my parents’ call.  My parents are both working individuals.  My mother is a public grade school teacher.  She works from 7AM to 5PM every day, Monday to Friday.  If she does over time, she’d go home at 6PM.  If she attends the Wednesday Novena or First Friday mass at 6PM, she’ll reach home by almost 8PM.  When we were kids, my mom wakes up at 5AM every day to prepare everything for us, from cooking to waking us up to bathing to clothing to bringing us to school.  Please take note, that happens EVERY DAY. You may think she has the usual Saturday and Sunday offs but no – these were allotted for weekly household chores, God and family time.  She’d do the laundry, clean the house, and cook for the whole family.  These are routinely done until we went to college.  And oopss.. by the way, she is also actively serving in our parish.  I don’t know how she does all that.  I think those were entailed on a mother’s love.

Her image of a mother doesn’t stop there.  During our college days, whenever we are on school break or at home in Bataan, she still sees to it that everything is in order from A to Z. She always tells us to bring home our laundry so she can do it for us.  In that way, she could lessen our burden of living away from home. Soon as we leave for Manila again, she makes sure that we brought with us her personally prepared yummy meals.  Again, this is something special that she always do for us.  If you live or had lived in Manila, you’ll know what I mean here.  Manila is the Philippines’ capital, a big city that all kinds of food to eat are readily available round the clock.   Her efforts of cooking instead of simply taking some rest were just extraordinary for a very busy mother like her. For us her children, she deserves more than being an “Ulirang Ina” awardee.

So there, enough of the kids.  My mom as a wife.  She is a real epitome of a lifetime-partner.  She obeys, trusts, and loves unconditionally.  She had always been there for my father all the way.  I can’t recall a day or even a second that she’d been busy and wasn’t available when Papa needs her to be beside him.  She has given Papa the fullest of her service alongside God.  We grew up seeing them loving each other more through the worst and best times of their lives and us as a family.  They’ve brought out the best in them individually and supported each other’s dreams. Being a normal couple, they also had their petty quarrels at times but those only added spices to their married life.  Mama always lifts up Papa and appreciates him as he is. Just so when she’s really proud of her husband, she’ll brag about how Papa worked harder for us and his family to get the life we have now.  During Papa’s last days, she had shared the pain and prayed with him, and served him wholeheartedly without expectations.

Mama, now in her happy old age, is still happily teaching kids and taking care of her children.  She still do what she was doing before.  Aside from the fact that she aged, it seems nothing in her persona really changed at all.  She still has that simplicity, contentment, humility, and happiness in her heart long before, but went even greater now.  I thank God for the gift of her life, for giving our family a mother who reflects that of our dear Mama Mary, for allowing us to feel a real mother’s love in her.  She is the best mother that every child would wish to have.

Lord, thank you for Mama’s existence to the world. Thank you for letting Mama enjoy the gift of motherhood. Thank you for raising and molding Mama the way she is now. Thank you, God for making me one of her children. Thank  you for being patient to her whenever she makes mistakes. I pray  that You always keep her safe, be her shield when storm comes, be her comfort during her sadness and longing, and be her confidence in times of failures and unbearable fall outs. Please give her good health always and longer life. And when all things went out of control, may she fall in a complete surrender to You, oh Lord, our God of all mercy and possibilities,  Amen.

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